No, that’s not at all what I meant.

You’re drawing too distinct of a line between nonbinary/non-transitioning trans folks and those who do transition, when violence and discrimination are experienced by trans folks in equal measure, with the exception of a trans women of color who face disproportionate violence and deserve focus for that reason over all other issues our community faces.

Nonbinary people face all of that which you mentioned, and I would posit that those AMAB trans folks who don’t transition (or don’t “pass”) but present feminine are just as likely to face violence and discrimination as a trans person who undergoes treatments that allow them to “pass” as cis. Perhaps even more so, as they are visibly trans and attract more attention, just as those who transition face intense scrutiny in their early days of transition. Those who don’t or can’t transition are left in that stage of not “passing,” whether by choice or by insecure financial situation.

There is, of course, the issue of the trans women who do generally pass getting clocked, which is a matter of great importance.

Neopronouns are not of the magnitude of importance as violence against trans women of color — there we most certainly agree. My point is that many non-transitioning trans folks face violence and discrimination principly because they don’t pass and present in a way that society punishes just as harshly as when a trans person who does medically transition gets clocked by a transphobe. The difference being that those who transition often reach a point where they blend in as cis, which is not often experienced by a trans person who does not or cannot transition.

In summation, violence against trans women is of great importance and deserves focus, and I would go so far as saying that violence against trans women of color is the most important issue our community faces today. But like I keep saying, equality is not pie — a focus on neopronouns and nonbinary-specific issues does not take away from services and needs for binary trans folks. There is enough room for all of us under this umbrella, and we are more powerful when we unite. We can walk and chew gum, so to speak.