Later this year I will become 35 years old. I came out as trans during pride season several years ago when I was about 27, and before that, I came out as generically queer when I was about 17. It seems that in just a few more years after I…

I recently had a commenter on one of my JK Rowling-related essays ask me: “[…] didn’t you fans ever notice no queer characters? None. In — what? — seven books? And people are ambushed by her being transphobic? I’d have been astonished if she weren’t.” There’s kind of a lot…

I once had a trauma-specialized therapist tell me that he was hesitant of me embracing my autism diagnosis because, and this is a direct quote, "Sometimes diagnosis makes people exhibit more autistic symptoms." He posed this as a negative and a reason why I should avoid digging too deep into…

When I first encountered these terms, Assigned sex" applied more to intersex people, while "assigned gender" applied more to transgender people. Recently I've seen intersex individuals use the term "Coercively assigned _gender/sex_ at birth" to alleviate any confusion between the terms, given that there is a pretty big difference between…

I’m coming up on the two-year anniversary of a friend’s death due to overdose. For the purpose of this essay, I’ll call her Bailey. We had come to know each other through trans therapy spaces and were part of each other's lives, in some capacity, for roughly four years. …

Drag was, in fact, created by trans women of color and continues to be an art form that features tons of trans and nonbinary performers. By virtue of there simply being more cis people in existence, more of them do drag, but they often learn of their craft from trans…

Why cis-assuming privilege is the golden standard of transition for so many — For many trans people, passing (or cis-assuming privilege) is the golden standard. That is to say, passing as cisgender rather than being seen as a person transitioning from “one gender to the other.” Effectively, it means to become not visibly trans. The term was first used similarly by Black American…

Conservatives and the Fostering of an American Dystopia — As indicated in May, the US Supreme Court has voted to overturn Roe v. Wade, a sweeping decision that immediately impacts abortion rights across the country that has dangerous implications for the future of same-sex and interracial marriage. In the decades since Roe v. …

Musings on what I’ve learned in the last 1825 days since coming out trans — I came out about my trans identity around this time in 2017. It was nearing the end of Pride month and I was living in New York with my ex-boyfriend in a small apartment in Astoria. We’ll call him Phil. We had a tumultuous relationship, founded upon mutual anxiety and…