In just under a month I am blessed to be marrying my best friend in the world in front of an intimate selection of our friends and family. My fiancé, Levi, proposed to me last September and I accepted without question. When I was growing up marriage seemed like an…

I’m coming up on the two-year anniversary of a friend’s death due to overdose. For the purpose of this essay, I’ll call her Bailey. We had come to know each other through trans therapy spaces and were part of each other's lives, in some capacity, for roughly four years. Her…

Why cis-assuming privilege is the golden standard of transition for so many — For many trans people, passing (or cis-assuming privilege) is the golden standard. That is to say, passing as cisgender rather than being seen as a person transitioning from “one gender to the other.” Effectively, it means to become not visibly trans. The term was first used similarly by Black American…

Conservatives and the Fostering of an American Dystopia — As indicated in May, the US Supreme Court has voted to overturn Roe v. Wade, a sweeping decision that immediately impacts abortion rights across the country that has dangerous implications for the future of same-sex and interracial marriage. In the decades since Roe v. Wade resulted in the landmark decision…

Musings on what I’ve learned in the last 1825 days since coming out trans — I came out about my trans identity around this time in 2017. It was nearing the end of Pride month and I was living in New York with my ex-boyfriend in a small apartment in Astoria. We’ll call him Phil. We had a tumultuous relationship, founded upon mutual anxiety and…

The Nazi History of the Problematic Diagnosis — I was diagnosed autistic around the middle of 2020. This followed years of confusion and pain regarding my inability to reconcile with the neurotypical expectations placed upon me in my personal and professional life. Until this diagnosis, I struggled to understand the nature of my own thought processes and why…

Last weekend, Proud Boys charged into a San Francisco library to criticize, harass, and intimidate participants in a drag queen story hour — including children, parents, and performers. Taunts of “it’s sexual!” as well as “tr*nny” and “pedophile” were shouted as the men stormed the building, causing attendants to fear…

How the Dunning Kruger Effect applies to TERF ideology — The internet is, objectively, one of the greatest resources of the modern digital age. Conversely, our culture’s practically unlimited access to knowledge has some counter-intuitive drawbacks. Information runs wild in digital spaces like Twitter, Reddit, and other such online forums, with seemingly factual claims made often without any accountability. American…